What is Self-Care?

I planned on writing this blog last week. At that point it was going to be a simple “10 Ways I Self-Care” type blog, but then I woke up this morning needing a little extra care myself. I woke up this morning remembering a dream that seemed to package everything I’ve been focusing away from for a while now. It was a Hey-You-really-need-to-face-things type of dream. So, I woke up facing them and, well, I’m a little low. And that is okay. Because seeing that I don’t feel right is the very first step in self care.

So, what is self-care, anyway? It is remembering that you matter. It is allowing yourself to actually see you and know that you are the most important person on your to-do list. Because if you don’t feel okay, it is extremely difficult to help those around you feel good.

Self-care is allowing yourself to not only know when you don’t feel okay, but it is you allowing yourself to feel that way and then caring for yourself just as you would any other loved one. Allowing yourself time on the couch under a blanket. Taking a mental-health day. Eating that occasional bowl of ice cream.

Picture yourself the last time you lost a relationship or had a very nasty flu. You allowed yourself to self-care during that time. You allowed yourself to feel the feelings or feel the sickness…mainly because those two situations are too painful to fight off, so you just rolled with that punch until you could push yourself back to your daily routine.

That daily routine that you rushed back to is the main reason so many of us are lacking in the self-care area…lacking in the happiness area.

If we are not sobbing or sneezing, we are expected to be at work, clean the house, care for the kids, take care of other family members, make sure everyone around us, except us, is happy. We think we need an excuse to put ourselves first…and we are exhausted.

So how do we self care anyway? Based on this blog post so far, you may think I’m suggesting curling on the couch with a bowl of ice cream at every upset. While you’re catching on…that is not exactly what I mean, as that would not be good for us physically. We self-care according to what we need. So I want you to ask yourself the following questions each day…

First, ask yourself how you are feeling that day. And really listen to yourself. If something is bothering you, take a moment to reflect on why. If life is just too much in that moment, it’s okay to sit with that. It’s okay to feel whatever emotion you have. Hold space for yourself the same way you would for someone else. Process it. Once you process, or if you didn’t have anything to process and started the day good, ask yourself the next question…

What can I do for myself today, whether it be 10 minutes or longer (if time allows), that will bring a smile to my face. Or what can I do for myself that I feel I need. Honestly it is that simple. And to clarify, an ice cream on occasion can be perfect. Just remember that self-care is also caring for our bodies long term, so also try going for walks, drinking teas, sitting in nature, reading a book etc.

This is how that process looked for me today. Note, that I didn’t have to ask myself how I was feeling, because it was one of those days where clearly I knew I needed some extra care. Today is an admin day for me in my business. But because I woke up not feeling so good and having everything come at me last night, I did only what needed to be done. I then asked myself what I needed today. I started under a blanket with a cup of coffee.

As I drank the coffee, I allowed myself to feel what I needed to feel in order to process “life”. By the end of the coffee, I was very inspired to write this post for you. No pun intended, but that cup of coffee helped to refill my cup, and now here I am hopefully helping you to fill yours. Am I back up to my normal spirits at this moment? No. But I am higher than I was this morning. I am also confident that I will be better either today or in a few days, because I will continually ask myself what I need in each moment until I get there. And then I will continue doing small acts of self-care every day after, as I have been doing the past five or so years of being on my self-love journey.

Practice checking in with yourself and allowing yourself to care for you however you need. Remember that it is okay to take care of you first, it truly does help you care for others in a better and more present way.

I have a video linked below infused with Reiki. Use that 35-minute-distance session as some self-care time for you. It is intended to help balance out your emotions and help you to take more steps of self care going forward.

If you find yourself knowing you need to take steps, but not being motivated to do so, I have helped many people like you take those small steps forward into a new and beautiful life. You can schedule with me HERE to get your first step forward if you would like. All coaching is done virtually…so I’m local to you.

Best Vibes Always!

Reiki to Reduce Anxiety

Anxiety is a common reason people come to see me for Reiki and there is a reason for that…it helps! That’s not to say anyone should bypass medical care for anxiety, as Reiki is complimentary. Reiki’s ultimate benefit is stress reduction with a very deep calm; it makes sense that it would help to reduce those feelings with anxiety. It has also helped to calm and quiet the ongoing mind-chatter that sometimes comes with anxiety.

Of course, with all energy work, results are not guaranteed. Reiki works by reducing your stress and then allowing your body to heal in whichever way is best for you. If you suffer from anxiety and medicine alone has not been able to help, give Reiki a try!

I have created this full 1-hour session of Reiki to help you with anxiety. You can use it during an episode or at any time to try and balance your energy to help prevent an episode. Allow approximately five minutes for the energy of the video to begin bringing calm to your body. If your anxiety is caused from deep emotional scars, click the link above to schedule a one-on-one so I can work deeper and more individually on your energy.

How to Best receive Distance Reiki from Home

Reiki is all about stress reduction and comfort. When you venture out to a Reiki practitioner’s office, you will step into a room that has the ambiance of a relaxing massage. Low lighting, a comfy massage table with extra blankets, essential oils, soft music, salt lamps, and maybe more. Comfort is key to a great session.

In my opinion, there are two parts to Reiki. The after effects that we feel the next day which is usually whatever we needed: more calm, less stress, more focus, more energy, etc. And the receiving, which takes place during treatment and is extremely relaxing. It is this portion that we, as practitioners, like to “pump up” with all the things listed in paragraph one to increase the relaxation factor.

If you are a busy person who truly cannot take time for yourself, kudos to you for getting distance Reiki to help you manage that stress. You may miss out on the “spa-relaxation” effect, but you will still receive Reiki’s effects simply by going throughout your day. The benefits should make themselves known the next morning.

If you are able to set aside the 45-60 minutes to receive your Reiki treatment in the comfortability of your own home, then for all things good…receive it the best way possible!

Here is a list of things you can do to make the most of that at-home treatment. You don’t need to do them all, but what you can do, you owe it to your beautiful self to take a few minutes to set it up. Do what resonates with you and is available to you. You can always add on more of these with future appointments:

13 Ways to Relax even more with At-Home-Reiki

  • Find a private room in your home where you won’t be disturbed
  • Clear your area of negative energy with a quick sweep-through of smoking sage (be sure it is completely smudged out before your session)
  • Light your favorite incense
  • Diffuse your favorite essential oil
  • Safely light a candle
    • Take your candle a step further if you’d like by selecting the color that resonates with whichever chakra you are focused on healing the most
      • White – Crown (connection to higher self)
      • Purple – Third Eye (connection to your sixth sense)
      • Blue – Throat (ability to speak your truth)
      • Green or Pink – Heart (self-love)
      • Yellow – Solar Plexus (empowerment)
      • Orange – Sacral (creativity)
      • Red or Black – Root (sense of security)
  • Turn on a salt lamp
  • Dim the lights
  • Find some massage or nature music on YouTube or whichever streaming app you listen to.
    • Be sure there are no yellow dots at the bottom of the YouTube video or your peaceful moment will be interrupted by an ad.
  • Sit or lay comfortably
  • Cover in a blanket, get cozy
  • Begin with a few deep breaths in and out (this, in itself, is a proven stress reducer)
  • Set a quick intention (state what benefit you would like to receive from the treatment)
  • Allow your body and mind to relax and just “be” for the remaining time
  • NOTE – Always drink plenty of water before and after Reiki to help with toxin release.
  • PLEASE BE CAREFUL- Reiki is known to put you into a meditative state. You should not drive while receiving Reiki or immediately after Reiki. You should also use caution with where you are receiving Reiki, for example you should not receive Reiki while in a bath, hot tub or any other accumulation of water as there is a chance of falling asleep. If you will be lighting candles or other items, be sure to set a timer so you wake up and turn them off to prevent any hazards.

Reiki is an amazing tool to help you find more calm and focus in your life. Setting yourself up to receive in a relaxed state will allow you to possibly feel the energy as it’s working, fall into a meditative state without even trying, or simply be more relaxed than what you were 60 minutes ago.

If you’d like to know more about Reiki, you can check out our FAQ page.

Sending love.

Be well.

About the author. Sherry Maroon is a life and nutrition coach as well as a Reiki Master. Making it through her own personal and life struggles is what brought her to her passion of helping others along their healing journey. You can learn more about Sherry at http://www.RiseAnew.Coach